This is a more personal topic, but I wanted to ask if anyone has some advice on ways to deal with grief. I understand this can be different for everyone. I’ve been reading up a lot on ways to process, but finding a lot of advice out there can be a bit generic. I thought I’d ask the Community on here for any specific tips, guidance, books, activities that you have found helpful.
My brother was just 40, and he recently passed away from cancer. It was just a couple of months between diagnosis and him passing, so it’s been a shock and a rapid series of events. I’m now at a stage where I find I have more time to sit with my grief, but I’m finding it surreal and I feel a bit lost.
Fortunately, I feel I can talk about this with family, friends and colleagues but I’m sharing in case it also helps others on here.
I am so sorry for your loss and the tough time you are going through.
Personally, I have heard podcasts with Julia Samuel and found her to be very helpful. I’ve just looked and seen she has released an app - I don’t know much more than that but she’s very respected in the field and I imagine this could be a helpful daily support system.
She also has various books, including this one which is linked to the app
First of all I am so sorry for your loss.
Grief is such a personal thing and there is no wrong way to go through it.
Having lost a sibling too I would say what has helped me is by sharing stories & memories of her with family & friends. I always like to remember funny moments that allow us to celebrate her life.
I have pictures of my sister around the house so that I am used to still seeing her around & it isn’t a shock when I see one pop up.
I second Julia’s podcast Grief Works. She was my mother’s psychotherapist & helped my whole family through our grief so much.
Her Book’s ‘Grief Works’ & ‘This Too Shall Pass’ really helped me through my grief.
I’m sorry to hear that you lost your brother to cancer. Feeling a wide range of emotions during this challenging time is expected. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, so please be patient with yourself as you navigate through this difficult journey. Don’t hesitate to lean on your supportive friends and family, and consider contacting a therapist if you need extra support. Remember to prioritize your well-being and find healthy ways to honor your brother’s memory. You’re not alone in this; giving yourself the time and space to heal is essential.
